Beat Your Genes https://beatyourgenes.org/ An Evolutionary Psychology Podcast for Finding Happiness in the Modern World Mon, 20 Apr 2026 21:38:27 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 https://beatyourgenes.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/cropped-Symbol-Transparent-PNG-32x32.png Beat Your Genes https://beatyourgenes.org/ 32 32 244110113 What Is the Goal of Life? Why Dr. Doug Lisle Says It’s Not Happiness https://beatyourgenes.org/2026/04/20/what-is-the-goal-of-life-happiness-vs-pleasure/ Mon, 20 Apr 2026 21:36:45 +0000 https://beatyourgenes.org/?p=9508 By Nathan Gershfeld, co-host of the Beat Your Genes Podcast, Episode 1 Ten years ago, I picked up a book called The Pleasure Trap, and it rearranged how I thought about almost everything. The book made a claim that sounded obvious on the surface but turned out to be radical underneath it: pleasure and happiness […]

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]]> 9508 380: You’re Not Overreacting About Your Partner (Here’s why) https://beatyourgenes.org/2026/04/15/380-youre-not-overreacting-about-your-partner-heres-why/ Wed, 15 Apr 2026 19:15:00 +0000 https://beatyourgenes.org/2026/04/15/380-youre-not-overreacting-about-your-partner-heres-why/ Your partner’s habits are driving you crazy and asking nicely isn’t working. The common advice is to be more patient, communicate better, or just accept your partner as they are. Dr. Lisle says that’s not a solution it’s a non-answer. What feels like a simple annoyance is actually a specific set of social and biological […]

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]]> 9446 Why You Can’t Just Stop Being Annoyed: Dr. Lisle on Habit Irritation, Anger, and Problem Solving https://beatyourgenes.org/2026/04/15/why-am-i-irritated-by-partners-habits/ Wed, 15 Apr 2026 18:19:02 +0000 https://beatyourgenes.org/?p=9443 By Nathan Gershfeld, co-host of the Beat Your Genes Podcast, Episode 380 If you’ve ever found yourself increasingly irritated by someone’s habits, even habits that don’t really hurt anything, you’re not imagining the frustration. And no, you probably can’t just “decide” to stop being annoyed. Dr. Lisle explains why, and what you can actually do […]

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]]> 9443 379: Why Your Partner Stopped Trying (It’s Not What You Think) https://beatyourgenes.org/2026/04/02/379-why-your-partner-stopped-trying-its-not-what-you-think/ Thu, 02 Apr 2026 03:44:00 +0000 https://beatyourgenes.org/2026/04/02/379-why-your-partner-stopped-trying-its-not-what-you-think/ Most people assume that whoever cares less in a relationship holds the power. In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle explains why that framing gets it completely backwards. What people call the “care gap” isn’t a power move at all. It’s a signal about what’s actually happening in the competitive marketplace both partners are operating in. […]

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]]> 9400 Why Do People Have Affairs? What Dr. Doug Lisle Actually Says https://beatyourgenes.org/2026/03/25/why-do-people-have-affairs/ Wed, 25 Mar 2026 02:27:59 +0000 https://beatyourgenes.org/?p=9353 By Nathan Gershfeld, co-host of the Beat Your Genes Podcast One of our listeners recently sent in a question that I think a lot of people quietly wonder about but rarely say out loud. She had been happily married for over 15 years, had no evidence her husband had ever been unfaithful, and yet she […]

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]]> 9353 378: All’s Fair in Love, War, AI, and the Marketplace https://beatyourgenes.org/2026/03/24/378-alls-fair-in-love-war-ai-and-the-marketplace/ Tue, 24 Mar 2026 19:18:00 +0000 https://beatyourgenes.org/2026/03/24/378-alls-fair-in-love-war-ai-and-the-marketplace/ Q1: I am an artist and I will occasionally use AI for reference material. But I still sketch the image out onto canvas and then paint it all by hand. My issue is when other artists create AI artwork, print it on canvas and then maybe embellish the work with some paint and try and […]

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