E349: “Going crazy” after cheating on husband, Are there limitations to Personality or Intelligence tests? Are problematic/disagreeable co-workers less estrogenized? Follow-up question from E347

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.  In today’s show, Dr. Lisle discusses the idea of “going crazy”, a question about personality and intelligence testing, a question about disagreeable co-workers, and a follow-up from episode 347.

[0:00] Teaser Clips

[1:23] Question 1: Woman cheats on her husband then snaps

[9:57] Can it be induced by psychiatric medications

[12:22] Question 2 – Are there errors/biases in personality or intelligence testing?

[23:40] What are some limitations to personality or intelligence testing?

[30:02] Do personality or intelligence tests change throughout life?

[34:58] What is an IQ test?

[38:50] Question 3: Are my problematic/disagreeable female co-workers less estrogenized?

[47:47] Question 4: Follow-up from past episode

[1:10:45] End
 

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348: Dr. Lisle’s Book Update, Friend acting unbothered following his wife’s death

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.  In today’s show, Dr. Lisle gves us an update on his upcoming book, and we take a question from a listener who is rethinking a friendship with their friends’ husband following the death of his wife.

[0:00] Teasers and Intro

[0:23] Year in Review and Book Update

[23:42]  Friend acting unbothered following his wife’s death – what might be going on?   

1.  My wife had a best friend since 5yrs old up until last year when she got an extremely aggressive cancer at the age of 42 which unfortunately took her life in only a few shorts months since diagnosis. As you can imagine it caused a great deal of sadness for my wife, myself, and her friends and family. Her husband on the other hand at least from outside seems to have a totally different response to this situation. At her funeral there was not any look of sadness or not even one tear on his face. No one took much notice as of course people have different reactions to bad situations. However in the coming few months we learned that he was already on dating apps and not long after that found another girlfriend and it’s like nothing happened. It’s like he lost a business partner and just got another. This culminated when he rang my wife to ask her if this new girlfriend can come to my son’s communion to which she was put on the spot and found it hard to say no. The event was very awkward and I was angry that he put her in that position.  My question is this, what should I make of this person? My feelings towards him have changed. I no longer want his kids and mine playing together as I don’t want to interact with the new girlfriend neither does my wife. How does someone move on so fast after a near 20 yr marriage? I’m confused and angered by all of this. It feels like a betrayal of her memory. Can you share your opinion of this situation?


 

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347: Do husbands just want sex and food? Are good looking people the only ones that can find love?

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.  In today’s show, Dr. Lisle discusses our first question in which a wife feels like she’s sometimes just being used for sex and food. Question #2 is from a listener wondering if some people are just doomed to never find love.

[0:00] Teasers and Intro

[1:21] Question 1: Wife admires husband but sometimes feels like all he wants is sex and hot meal

[36:29] Question 2: Are some people (in the middle of bell curve) not able to find romantic love?  

1.  I’ve heard you say that in a good relationship, the man finds the woman attractive while the woman admires the man’s character. This describes my marriage. My husband and I have been together for 30 years. He still wants sex a lot, and I admire his work ethic and dedication as a father.  The problem is, I can’t help but feel I’m being “used.” I often feel like all he wants from me is sex and a hot meal.  He seems to pour 99% of his energy into his job and career advancement, leaving my emotional needs completely neglected. He works long hours, rarely has time for me, and doesn’t share in parenting duties. He’s constantly stressed and often snaps at me when he’s in a bad mood. When I get upset, he always says he didn’t mean it and that he only lashed out because he was at his limit.  I know I can’t change who he is, and I can’t change my own feelings about his attitude. What can I do to improve our situation?

2. Are some people, who are otherwise normal or middle of the bell curve, just not meant to ever find romantic love? If they are reasonably attractive, intelligent, and have good character is it possible for them to still end alone? What would cause this? Is there any truth to the saying that love comes when you are not looking or when you least expect it?
 

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Doug Lisle, PhD http://www.esteemdynamics.com

Nathan Gershfeld, DC http://www.fastingescape.com

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