250: Owing parents,Child’s junk affects Mom’s health,Too sensitive?, Half effort

In today’s episode, Dr. Lisle discusses: 1. How much do you owe your parents as they age? My father is very disagreeable and I hate being around him. As my father ages, he will need me to care for him more but I would like to move out of state. He does not have any savings to afford quality nursing home care. Do I need to take him with me because there would be no one else here to care for him? 2. I’m having environment issues and I’m really stuck as to what to do about it. I have a 36 year old special needs daughter.  Every chance I get, I sneak into her room and grab some cookies, or candy or whatever else she has stashed in there away from Mom. It’s really hindering my progress. 3. I am easily thrown off by simple things at work or in my personal life- and I’m a crier. My mom and I had a disagreement recently and I didn’t get over it for over an hour and kept involuntarily crying because I was so upset that I disappointed her. I don’t re-calibrate quickly from negative feedback and I’d like to learn how to get better at it. Maybe I’m too darn sensitive. 4. I am very happy with my life, have a dream job, good performance reviews, good pay and I so I should be happy. But I know that I’m not fully applying myself at work and I that I’m cruising at 50% effort. As as result I feel constant guilt for slacking off at work, and yet I cannot seem to force myself to work harder. The boss is happy, and unless there is an immediate and heavy deadline I don’t feel motivated. Can you talk about this phenomenon please?