386: How to Handle Bad Advice Without a Fight

What do you say when a friend or family member recommends horse-assisted coaching, family constellations therapy, or the latest protein fix for your problems? Evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle explains why arguing back is like trying to pee up Niagara Falls, and what to do instead.

Dr. Lisle breaks down the hidden motivations behind unsolicited advice, why every one of these exchanges is really a status contest, and how his Seems Strategy lets you exit the conflict without surrendering your integrity. He also covers why psychodynamic therapy is the modern equivalent of bleeding patients, the management principle that ends recurring arguments, the story of an executive who lost a major VP job by correcting a CEO, and David Burns’ anti-heckler technique for defusing public status challenges.

Beat Your Genes is co-hosted by evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Dr. Nathan Gershfeld, DC. New episodes every other week.

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