04: Staying with a Man Who’s Not Right For You

As Dr. Lisle discusses the purpose of psychology, we begin with a discussion of thoughts, feelings, and behavior.    Some philosophers believe that we can think one thing and then feel something completely different but Dr. Lisle explains these seemingly conflicting thoughts & feelings explains how this relates to stress.  We discuss different models of psychology and some of the limits of learning theory.  For example,  do we learn our emotions during childhood?    

Dr. Lisle discusses an example of a common “beat your genes” trap for women nowadays of staying with a man who’s not right for her.   

We continue on this topic for the remainder of the show and Dr. Lisle begins the explanation about differing mating strategies.

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Host: Nathan Gershfeld

Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D.

http://www.BeatYourGenes.org

Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

03: High Cost of High Expectations

Motivation and expectations are supposed to go hand-in-hand.  The idea being – if you’re expected to achieve a goal, your motivation kicks in to meet these expectations.  This is true BUT (and it’s a big but) ONLY IF those expectations are reasonable.  If not, motivation actually whithers away. 

In this discussion with Dr. Doug and Nathan, we’ll be talking about how this process works, why it works the way it does, and how to effectively overcome high expectations. 

03: High Cost of High Expectations

Motivation and expectations are supposed to go hand-in-hand.  The idea being – if you’re expected to achieve a goal, your motivation kicks in to meet these expectations.  In this episode, Dr. Lisle goes over a concept called The Ego Trap.  Which is the trap we may find ourselves in if the expectations of our performance exceeds what we think we can reasonably accomplish.  Dr. Lisle describes this trap, how this process works, why it works the way it does, and how to effectively overcome it. 

 

Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast

Host: Nathan Gershfeld

Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D.

http://www.BeatYourGenes.org

Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus