277: Do ppl marry out of necessity, Assessing happiness, Contribution Anxiety

In today’s show, the Dr’s discuss: 

1. My male friend told me he married his wife even though he was in love with an ex-girlfriend because he could trust her to be loyal whereas he couldn’t trust his ex. How often do men do this? How good/bad of a situation is this for the wife who wants a reliable husband and father until death does them part(she might be concerned about him having an affair with the ex)?

2. How do I assess how to stimulate/encourage my brain’s moods of happiness?

3. I’ve always been quite anxious but this feeling has worsened in the past two years. I always feel a sense of insecurity about the future as well as inferiority to everyone. I question my decisions and my capabilities. Is it a real fear that signals that I’m not “contributing to the village” or is it just my personality?

277: Do ppl marry out of necessity, Assessing happiness, Contribution Anxiety

In today’s show, the Dr’s discuss:  1. My male friend told me he married his wife even though he was in love with an ex-girlfriend because he could trust her to be loyal whereas he couldn’t trust his ex. How often do men do this? How good/bad of a situation is this for the wife who wants a reliable husband and father until death does them part(she might be concerned about him having an affair with the ex)? 2. How do I assess how to stimulate/encourage my brain’s moods of happiness? 3. I’ve always been quite anxious but this feeling has worsened in the past two years. I always feel a sense of insecurity about the future as well as inferiority to everyone. I question my decisions and my capabilities. Is it a real fear that signals that I’m not “contributing to the village” or is it just my personality?

276: Jealousy & Possessive behavior, Crystal Clear, Deception in dating

In this episode, Dr. Lisle discusses: 

1. Is jealous and controlling/possessive behavior a sign that a romantic partner loves you or is just a something to do with their personality?

2. Does crystal clear usually only work with honest people? I suppose a dishonest person would lie and manipulate during the crystal clear, therefore the best outcome of the conversation would be finding out the truth despite their dishonesty and/or terminating the relationship because of the realization of their dishonesty and that it carries too many costs.

3. How common is it for men to be successfully deceived about a woman’s promiscuity? How easy is it for men to correctly ‘sniff out’ a woman’s promiscuity? How common is it for women to lie about their promiscuity?