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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.  In today’s show, Dr. Lisle explains how genes are passed on through generations and just how complex and interdependent they are. However, sometimes this can lead to the mistaken belief that societies can easily breed certain traits into or out of their population. 

1. Dr lisle you’ve often mentioned that we cannot get intelligent people to breed for generations and give rise to a population whose average IQ is higher than the current avg IQ i.e. china/singapore tried to experiment with this idea but they failed. But Dr Lisle you’ve also said that today’s human is on average way more cooperative than the ancient human.. so if the average cooperation can be bred to a higher level, why can’t the average IQ be bred to a higher level?

Teasers [0:00]
Intro  [0:45]
Opening discussion [1:42]
Excerpt from past Episode 299: [4:55]
Question #1 [8:20]
Dr. Lisle Answers: [9:08]
Darker skin defends better against solar radiation near Equator [14:40]
Survival advantages move evolution very very slowly [15:38]
Eugenics is not possible because gene interactions are too complex [33:30]
It’s troubling to discover your own constraints: [41:10]
Individual human beings have individual differences:  [50:00]
Outro: [55:30]

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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. 

Question 1:

I had a very traumatic childhood, but I don’t blame my experiences with my violent alcoholic mother for any of my stupid adult decisions.  I did those all on my own — with some help from my parents’ genes, of course.  What Dr. Lisle teaches on this topic makes sense to me.  I have a friend who, by any measure, had a much less traumatic childhood.  In fact, I don’t think it is fair to say that her childhood was traumatic at all. There weren’t any drugs or alcohol in her childhood home, and, according to her, she didn’t experience any physical, verbal or sexual abuse. Her physical needs were all taken care of and, at the time, she says she felt very loved by both her parents.  She is no longer close to them.   Looking back over her life at the age of 60, she now believes that her emotional needs weren’t properly addressed when she was a child. Consequently, she has recently concluded that her problems stem from an attachment disorder caused by her parents. For the first time, she is calling what she experienced “trauma.”  She is convinced that her parents’ lack of attentiveness to her emotional needs qualifies as trauma and are at fault for much of her current depression and rage, as well as for her struggle with weight.    My friend is quite disagreeable, whereas I am quite agreeable.   Even among people who truly had a traumatic childhood, I have noticed a pattern:  Disagreeable people are more likely to want to blame someone for their shortcomings and for their life’s decisions, whereas agreeable people don’t tend to blame anyone.  In this way, it seems that agreeable people may be more readily able to grasp the lessons that Evolutionary Psychology has to offer — at least in the arena of this important topic of trauma and its role in our lives.  What do you think?

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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. 

Intro [0:00]

Question #1: [0:30]

I have been with the same man for 13 years (since I was 19) and we have 2 children together. Though we have had our ups and downs and areas of incompatibility I believe our relationship is good, I love our family and want it to continue. However there is a part of me that wishes to fall in love with someone new again and feels regret about committing to someone when I was so young. What I don’t understand is the several times we’ve had a relationship crisis it would be him who wanted to leave. At those points the part of me that fantasizes about a new romance completely fades away and all I care about is getting him back again. Why is this?

Dr. Lisle answers: [1:18]

Question #2: [35:40]

I recently shared a passionate kiss with a married man. I’m worried the village might know. Small town and all. I don’t want to be labeled as a bad person. This individual likely has their reasons. I believe they are going on 15+ years of marriage, a few kids, ect. Good looking guy in his mid 40’s, business owner. If I get confronted, how do I put my words. To help people understand that men are inherently wife wife chippy and it may be understandable for them to kiss a random girl to feel like they are still valued in the market. I want to clarify I unexpectedly was the recipient of this kiss. But I didn’t slap him and walk away. It was nice. I feel guilt over the matter and avoiding seeing anyone that may know. I’ll let time ride this out and hopefully not have to deal with conflict. If I do, how would you suggest I handle it?

Dr. Lisle answers: [36:44]

Question #3: [46:18]

You focus a great deal of attention on mating strategies, mainly geared towards younger people who are making decisions about passing on genes and pairing up with the right person for resource security and safety. But what about people over 55 who are no longer worried about procreating and looking for financial stability? Are they following the same strategies when looking for a mate or companion? What is driving them?

Dr. Lisle answers: [46:45]

Outro [1:04:01]

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