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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.  In today’s show, Dr. Lisle discusses our first question in which a wife feels like she’s sometimes just being used for sex and food. Question #2 is from a listener wondering if some people are just doomed to never find love.

[0:00] Teasers and Intro

[1:21] Question 1: Wife admires husband but sometimes feels like all he wants is sex and hot meal

[36:29] Question 2: Are some people (in the middle of bell curve) not able to find romantic love?  

1.  I’ve heard you say that in a good relationship, the man finds the woman attractive while the woman admires the man’s character. This describes my marriage. My husband and I have been together for 30 years. He still wants sex a lot, and I admire his work ethic and dedication as a father.  The problem is, I can’t help but feel I’m being “used.” I often feel like all he wants from me is sex and a hot meal.  He seems to pour 99% of his energy into his job and career advancement, leaving my emotional needs completely neglected. He works long hours, rarely has time for me, and doesn’t share in parenting duties. He’s constantly stressed and often snaps at me when he’s in a bad mood. When I get upset, he always says he didn’t mean it and that he only lashed out because he was at his limit.  I know I can’t change who he is, and I can’t change my own feelings about his attitude. What can I do to improve our situation?

2. Are some people, who are otherwise normal or middle of the bell curve, just not meant to ever find romantic love? If they are reasonably attractive, intelligent, and have good character is it possible for them to still end alone? What would cause this? Is there any truth to the saying that love comes when you are not looking or when you least expect it?
 

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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.  In today’s Part 2 from episode 343, Dr. Lisle discusses a potential explanation for why homosexuality persists in the population despite homosexuals having fewer children. 

1. I understand that the very basis of natural selection is transmission and expression of genes – basically we are all evolved to pass as many of our successful genes into the population, and that the characteristics and behavior of the organism is evolved to promote this goal. However, how does that explain the persistent existence of gay people. Their behavior does not work to pass genes into the population – in fact, quite the opposite. I’ve heard this expressed as a Darwinian Paradox. Is there other behaviors that are also Darwinian Paradoxes? Btw, I’m gay and this in no way is intended to imply that homosexuality is an aberration. 

Intro [0:00]
Question 1:  [0:11]
Dr. Lisle answers: [0:53]
Final thoughts: [18:29]
Outro: [21:20]

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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.  In today’s show, Dr. Lisle explains how genes are passed on through generations and just how complex and interdependent they are. However, sometimes this can lead to the mistaken belief that societies can easily breed certain traits into or out of their population. 

1. Dr lisle you’ve often mentioned that we cannot get intelligent people to breed for generations and give rise to a population whose average IQ is higher than the current avg IQ i.e. china/singapore tried to experiment with this idea but they failed. But Dr Lisle you’ve also said that today’s human is on average way more cooperative than the ancient human.. so if the average cooperation can be bred to a higher level, why can’t the average IQ be bred to a higher level?

Teasers [0:00]
Intro  [0:45]
Opening discussion [1:42]
Excerpt from past Episode 299: [4:55]
Question #1 [8:20]
Dr. Lisle Answers: [9:08]
Darker skin defends better against solar radiation near Equator [14:40]
Survival advantages move evolution very very slowly [15:38]
Eugenics is not possible because gene interactions are too complex [33:30]
It’s troubling to discover your own constraints: [41:10]
Individual human beings have individual differences:  [50:00]
Outro: [55:30]

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Nathan Gershfeld, DC http://www.fastingescape.com 
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