255: Perceptions meet reality, Where does ‘sense of awe’ come from?

In today’s show, the Dr’s discuss the following questions:

1. For the past 20 years I have been bewildered and somewhat dissappointed in how my ex-husband and two adult sons have been difficult to get along with and very dismissive of me, despite my huge efforts to forge a warm and close feeling among the 4 of us. No matter how hard I try, I keep getting rejection and sometimes even ridicule from these guys,even though none of us live together anymore. Now, finally, I realize that the problem maybe isn’t me (ie. not a “good enough” mother or wife.) Perhaps it is in their personalities — they would all score pretty high on the disagreeable bell curve while I am in the high 80’s for agreeableness. So now what? Is there a different strategy I should take with these family members. Or should I just give up and head for the hills? I would appreciate any help. I love these people, but I don’t enjoy being with them anymore.

2. You’ve talked about how people enjoy landscapes that indicate that safety, food, and water needs will be met. But why do people feel a sense of wonder and awe at the night sky, a newborn’ s hand, or the Grand Canyon? Are these feelings related to religious experiences? Are there personality traits that would be more likely in people who have frequent experiences of awe and wonder?

254: Economics, Cryptocurrency, and Job Searching

In today’s show, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk discuss some economics, politics, and this question from a listener: 

(Paraphrased due to original q length) Dear Dr’s, I was recently laid off from my job and even though I’m collecting unemployment, I still want to get another job.  I’ve applied for and received opportunities for jobs.  One offer is to work for the police as an analyst but do I really want to work for an establishment that hauls people to jail for not wearing a mask?  Another is a high tech job implementing 5G technology – I have strong opinions against 5G and think it needs more testing. I know 5G is coming whether I work on it or not, but I feel guilty putting my efforts toward it.   I  have the same sort of personal objections on the other offer. What the hell is wrong with me? I need the money and I need companionship. It is hard to get a job in this economy and I have worked so hard to get these. Why am I so confused about which job to take? Maybe I should just forget it and sit around on unemployment. 

(Replay)Moderation vs. fanaticism in life pursuits,Social media as pleasure trap

In today’s replay of episode 205, Dr. Lisle & Dr. Howk answer the following questions:

1. My brother never does anything in moderation, for example if he starts working out, he’ll organize his life around it, stop all social drinking and the like. Then he will eventually feel empty and complain he’s burnt out. My question is, is he destined to live in this open-unstable roller-coaster ride, or can I give him some advice (perhaps Harry Browne style) that will help him find his place?

2. I’ve heard Dr. Howk talk about social media as a potential pleasure trap, and I was wondering if she could go into more depth on that. What are the circuits being hijacked? What advice would you give to a low-key social media addict?