245: Maximizing freedom, Are pets supernormal family stimuli?

In the last live episode of 2020, Dr. Howk and Dr. Lisle discuss:

1. I am in my mid forties and for almost my whole life I have been a strong advocate of much stricter controls of driving, smoking and drinking. Literally my only disclaimer is that I understand controls may lead the behaviour to go underground and so you’d have to allow for that. Otherwise: Bring on the controls of these dangerous activities!  I personally do not own a car, do not smoke and do not drink by the way. Others seem not to feel the same and often strongly say the deaths are an acceptable cost to the ongoing enjoyment of smoking, drinking and relatively unsafe driving.  How fantastic that everyone’s cost-benefit-analysis has suddenly shifted so far to now accept infringements on personal behaviour to prevent covid deaths? I say “welcome to the saving lives party; I have been here enjoying it for many years and I welcome you. Perhaps now you are ready to save a few more million lives with some relatively minor additional infringements of personal liberty? Perhaps we could look at driving, smoking and drinking?” Muttered replies ensue. “Oh wait,” I say, “covid is special? I’ve looked at the statistics and yes maybe it is. It seems to be by far the least dangerous of the four and yet we’re doing much more about it. Wierd.”

2. BYG listeners are sophisticated enough to recognize that and video games represent “supernormal stimuli” that can be problematic because they ultimately get in the way of achieving meaningful goals. But if we are really honest with ourselves, wouldn’t we admit that dogs and cats are really just another form of this counterproductive “supernormal stimuli” – meaning that they tickle the reward pathways meant to incentivize family formation but could possible inhibit us from doing the work to form meaningful bonds/offspring with potential mates.

244: Washed up Jimmy, Lazy millennials, Covid mandates/New normal?

In today’s show, the dr’s discuss the following topics:

1. As a somewhat successful women in her late thirties, I find many males attracted to my stability. I feel almost viewed as an asset to potential mates in the dating arena. Someone they would show off to their parents. Even to hear, ‘we could do so much with our incomes combined’. Dr. Lyle has stated men are not much concerned about provisions from the woman. I would like to hear your download on this. Along the same lines, I hire a dozen or so people a year to help in labor type jobs. Most of the individuals are in their 20’s and seem to lack work ethic compared to people in their later 30’s. I automatically think that the millennials lack work ethic and it is ‘learned behavior’. How do you explain this from an evolutionary standpoint? My point is, if laziness isn’t learned, why does it seem like we have more lazy people today than in previous generations?

2. I am concerned when I hear people and even Dr’s say things like masks and social distancing and virtual learning is the permanent new normal. Even Dr McDougall has voiced some of this recently on a webchat. Why is this the trend, and is it going to be, Life isn’t fun at all and I am finding this depressing. Months ago I shared Dr Ionaiddes and similar opinions on Facebook and got shut down hard. I apparently had the audacity to question the mask wearing and social distancing concepts and got ugly angry responses; it feels dystopian to me. Not a single person I know seemed to voice any of this? Am i the nut?

243: Erectile Dysfunction, Pleasure Trap/Ego Trap: Blaming the wrong things

In today’s show, the Dr’s answer and discuss the following questions:

1. My high blood pressure medication is causing me to underperform in the bedroom to the point where I feel extremely anxious, embarrassed, and guilty that I am losing this part of myself to old age.    My doctor says it’s either the meds or a stroke, so I follow her advice.   My wife is very supportive, but I can’t help but feel guilty.  How can I help her understand that I do love her and that it’s not her physical appearance that is causing my malfunction?

2. Eating foods that make you feel horribly bad. Why am I abusing myself in such manner? Can you help me understand the cycle?

3. When caught between the pleasure and ego trap for food is one way out to somehow get to the point that you know you can eat whatever you want but truly don’t want to eat the high fat food? Or is the only way out to be sick and your life depends on it?

4. Can you provide a succinct, complete definition of the term, “Pleasure Trap” in your book of the same name?

5. I’m curious as to why and how we got it so wrong for so long with regards to genetics vs environment. We blame genetics for chronic diseases (diabetes, high cholesterol, cancer, etc), and we blame environment for our personalities, intelligence, behaviors, and life choices. When in reality, it’s the opposite. Who we are individually is genetic, and what diseases we get are driven mostly by environment (food and lifestyle). Once we found out the earth was round and revolves around the sun, most people caught on. How long do you think will it take for society to ‘catch on’ to the truth about genes and environment?