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Upcoming seminar Sun, Feb 19:  True to Life Seminar – visit http://www.TrueToLife.us to register.  In this show, Dr. Lisle discusses: 1. I am still trying to figure out genetics and evolution (I wasn’t taught it), so I might be way oversimplifying this. If you get a set of genes from your parents and they get a set of genes from each of their parents, wouldn’t you be able to track a certain genetic trait as being from either one of your parents or one of their parents? 2. You have previously explained borderline personality.  Can we have a refresher on this, and do you have a better moniker it? 3. If you had to map out the very best way to get on the right track or stay on the right track for my health, What would be the best things for me to do? 4. My organization is constantly trying to access and improve ‘group performance’ and there are a variety of corporate tools marketed to optimize the effectiveness of work Teams. Is this bunk or does this have any relevance. More broadly, what do you think of “Organizational Psychology?” and does this relate? 5. My wife and I recently moved to a very exclusive neighbourhood. It’s a small, rich neighbourhood and we thought before we moved here that we would enjoy a lot of privacy and that people would keep to themselves. However, we have discovered to our horror hat we have extremely nosy, over-friendly, and slightly interfering neighbours. What can I do to enforce boundaries without falling out with them and potentially creating even bigger issues?

True To Life Seminar info:  http://www.TruetoLife.us Today’s q’s: 1.I am curious about an unpopular subject: systematic eugenics.  Has “random” selection in the mating market already produced the best possible human genes combinations? Could we generate humans with drastically higher IQ, strength, size, speed, athleticism, beauty, etc? What do you think is the hypothetical limit of human genetic potential for outlier individuals and for the average of a population?  This kind of discussion is often obscured by the obvious practical and ethical problems, rather than what it could theoretically achieve. 2.My husband’s daughter is extremely disagreeable, low conscientiousness, low IQ, highly introverted, open to drugs and alcohol and unstable. She is in constant crisis and is constantly threatening suicide. My husband and I have really tried to be there for her and never miss a call, but her constant cries for attention are draining and have taken years off our lives. I don’t want to discount anything that she is feeling but my and my husband’s mental health are really suffering and we don’t know what to do.  3.How do you respond to a child who has no recognition of their limitations? i.e. on the verge of being fired because they constantly call in “sick,” show up late, don’t do their job. Or the child who barely passed chemistry but says they are going to med school? Even if we say “That’s great, but I understand med school is a lot of work” she gets mad and tells us and all her friends that we told her that she was a loser and a failure and because of us, she isn’t going to med school anymore and instead she’s stuck in a minimum wage job. Then she gets depressed at what might have been if we hadn’t held her back. But if we say nothing, then she tries and fails (or fails to try) and becomes depressed and that somehow becomes our fault too.

In today’s episode, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk discuss the following question: 1. Given that depression is inherently demotivating (because it is failure feedback that tells you to stop what you’re doing), how might one ‘bootstrap’ oneself into more positive, motivated mood states? I wonder what people in the Stone Age village would have done to bounce back from failure feedback; it makes most of us want to curl into a ball and die. How does depression actually end up benefiting and motivating us?