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In today’s show, the Dr’s discuss new evidence about anti-depressant treament and then discuss the following questions: 1. I think I have messed up my dopamine reward system and I don’t know how to fix it or if I want to. I am early 40’s, single and have been in many relationships. I don’t have trouble attracting men. I think if I just decided it was time then I would settle for one but to me it is boring and mundane and I only feel excited by unpredictable, magnetic dynamics with men. For the last couple of years I’ve had an online FWB who lives overseas. He has a bit of a high profile and so the reward I felt from attracting him and engaging with him long term has been really high. Now that I attracted someone so unattainable I can’t get excited about anyone else. I didn’t used to be like this. I had plenty of loser bfs in the past. Wtf is wrong with me? And if I don’t fix it, will I end up alone and be a miserable old person? 2. My partner’s parents are in their early 70s and still love what they do, jumping out of bed to start work each day as they did 40 years ago. Both work in creative fields.  It’s not clear if they found the perfect careers, or if they would take the same excitable, have-at-it attitude to any path they had followed.  Are people who find their dream job genetically predisposed to do so? Is it in their own personalities to work with such passion and positivity or does everyone have that potential, if the right job comes along?

In today’s show, Dr. Jen Howk discusses some current events. 

In today’s show, the doctor’s discuss:  1. If your relationship status is single, would you only look to someone with your diet lifestyle as someone you’d only be interested in dating and possible pair bond? 2. Can spirituality fit into evolutionary psychology? 3.  My question is about creating an alter ego – Apparently sports people do it and David Goggins did it. David Goggins was a flake and overweight and had no prospects and by his own admission was a liar. Then he basically turned his life around and became a Navy seal and said he did it by inventing an Alter ego called Goggins. So does this suggest personality can be changed. I know current theory is it is largely inherited. He also said an important part of his transformation was the accountability mirror. You basically look in the mirror every day and be completely honest about who and what you are and then from there you can change what you don’t like about yourself. Any merit in this?