happiness

309: Resentful of Cheating Dad, Do Men Prefer to Earn More than Spouse, Moving In with Partner but Marriage is Off the Table

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In today’s episode, Dr. Lisle and Howk discuss the following questions:

  1. I listened to your talk discussing whether humans actually have Free Will: If we, as an organism are just doing what we perceive is optimal for the species in survival and reproduction, does that mean that I should not be very angry at my father who cheated on my Mom repeatedly, divorced her, and spent the rest of his life hitting on women whenever one seemed available in front of him? It has bothered me my whole life and as his daughter I hate him for that. But of course, as I am agreeable, I have never told him that but deep down I resent him.
  2. Does the average man prefer to make a higher salary than his spouse?  And does the average man prefer to have a degree that is at least as advanced as his spouse?    How does it affect a man if he makes less money than his wife, or is not as accomplished academically?
  3. So I understand that women can’t make themselves more attractive by earning more money, but all things being equal, will men generally select a woman making more money rather than less?  Also, what about a woman who makes significantly more than a guy — might that hurt her chances with him?
  4. As a man how do I approach my partner about moving in and us signing a cohabitation agreement that everything is separate other than things we agree to in advance? She is very sensitive and think it will be a tough subject to talk about. I have a lot more money than she does and don’t want any legal matters to be an issue later if we break up. Marriage is not in the cards.

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    Host: Nathan Gershfeld                              

    Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D.

    Podcast website:  http://www.BeatYourGenes.org

    True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : http://www.TrueToLife.us

     

    Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

308: Dumped but then he came back, Can’t eat healthy unless I live in the woods, Do introverts need to socialize more

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In today’s show, Dr. Lisle & Howk review the following questions: 

  1. How do you reconcile Dr. Jen’s potted plant theory with Dr. Lisle’s ego trap? As someone that is over 90th percentile introverted and emotionally unstable I find I prefer to keep my world very small and do not have energy for much socializing outside of working full time in an office full of people. Sometimes people encourage me to push myself to socialize more but I’m content spending time at home with my spouse and animals – how would I know if I avoid socializing due to an ego trap or if I’m just designing a life that fits my big 5?
  2. A friend of mine was recently dumped via text message. She was in a relationship with this man for about 6 months, everything was going well (both had been married previously and had teenage children). The breakup came as a complete shock to my friend. 6 weeks later the guy contacted my friend, appologised for dumping her and asked for a second chance.  Is it possible he was seeing someone else and realised my friend was a better ‘mate’ option?
  3. As a woman in my 50s who has eaten crap her whole life and fought her weight the whole time too, I have found that unless I quit my job, divorce my husband, drop all my friends, move to a cabin in the woods in total isolation with no form of communication or entertainment and never leave while growing my own whole foods, controlling everything in my environment is impossible and triggers and cravings are everywhere. (and some appear without any noticeable provocation and with a connection that only my brain can seem to find.). What can I do? I am trying to deprogram over 50 years of programming and habits and are surrounded by people who aren’t even trying and surrounded by an industry and environment that is bound and determined to make me sick and fat.

     

    Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast

    Host: Nathan Gershfeld                              

    Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D.

    Podcast website:  http://www.BeatYourGenes.org

    True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : http://www.TrueToLife.us

     

    Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

307: Where Does Evolutionary Psychology Evidence Come From?

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In today’s show, Dr. Lisle discusses in detail “Where does the evidence for evolutionary psychology come from?”

Our first question from a listener begins, ” I am incredibly fascinated by EP and feel that I have learned so much from the show. I do wonder sometimes though when the questions get answered, what evidence/research is it based on? Assuming the conclusions are inferred… there obviously isn’t a set of randomized control trial which provides the answers. I ask for my own interest but also as to provide additional weight to my recommendations to friends/family to learn about this area as I have been doing for the last couple of years. “

Question # 2 from a different listener:   “What personality traits correlate with people who seek continual simple pleasures in place of higher achievements, even if their community values higher achievements? Such as people who choose alcohol over the success of their career or relationship, or who shirk responsibly because it feel “too hard” or “too much” for them?”

 

Host: Nathan Gershfeld                              

Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D.

Podcast website:  http://www.BeatYourGenes.org

True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : http://www.TrueToLife.us

To schedule a consultation with Dr. Lisle, visit http://www.EsteemDynamics.com

Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

 

 

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