In today’s episode, Dr. Lisle discusses: 1. Why do men sometimes pair-bond/fall in love with obviously promiscuous women(promiscuous reputation, clubbing/partying often, always scantily clad)? Maybe I’m having a hard time understanding because I’m a young woman. I would love to hear your thoughts! 2. What pair-bond behavior do highly testeronized men show? My boyfriend of 1 year remembers minute details about me, pays for all our dates, sends me food when he’s not with me, and has bought me a new MacBook Pro, iPhone, Tiffany’s jewelry, flowers every month, and teddy bears but he is not very verbally or physically affectionate. He has never initiated sexual activities with me either, although I can tell he enjoys when we do them. He’s very jealous and possessive, insulting other men’s abilities and intentions with me and always telling me to dress more modestly. In addition to not being verbally(as in compliments, sweet-talking, baby-names) and physically affectionate, he’s easily irritated with me, curses and yells at me when he’s angry, and dismisses my thoughts and opinions. He has proposed to me with a $20,000 engagement ring but I am hesitant to get more invested in this relationship but I am extremely confused about how he feels about me. If this is the pair-bonded behavior of a highly testeronized man maybe I am more compatible with a man who’s closer to the middle of the bell curve. Your thoughts would be appreciated! 3. Dear doctors: could you please speak on what it is like to have a romantic relationship with a person with low emocional stability? I have started dating a man who describes himself as having low emotional stability. Although he is very sweet and loving, I do wonder how high the cost will be to maintain this relationship. I am very emotionally stable and as such I’d like to know what to expect.
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272: Work evaluation, Abandonment/Rejection issues, Life after psych meds
In today’s show, the Dr’s discuss:
1. I listened to Dr Howk on pseudo esteem where you say: If you are highly agreeable, highly conscientious and not that emotionally stable – being on social media comes with a high price for you psycolgy. I teach workshops for companies and I get graded every time from each students. I get 5 from 95% of the students but sometimes I get a 2 or 3 and I can tell right away before I get the evaluation who in the crowd will grade me low. How do I stop trying to please the one disagreeable person and not feel bad for getting a low grade? When I have a disagreeable person in my workshop I feel like I have to work twice as hard to turn him or her over to my side. It feels like Im spending 1000 dollars on a 100 dollar asignment and Im drained. My boss allways sees the evaluation and I feel the need to explain my self if a person gave me a low grade. My boss uses the good evaluations as a selling point to get the companies to buy more workshops at his school.
2. Do you ever talk about abandonment/rejection issues? Examples: my mother divorced my father when I was seven years of age in 1959 and my mother was murdered in 1968 leaving behind 7 children.
3. I was put on psychiatric drugs when I was 13 because of anorexia and being miserable about being bullied at school. The drugs messed me up. I can see it now that I have not used them for years. I was on various types of drugs around 10 years. I now know how damaging and useless those drugs are and I know my cognitive abilities have been damaged because of them. I also now realize just how much damage psychiatry has caused to my life overall. I’m extremely angry and bitter. I’ts incredibly painful to think about what has been done to my brain and what potential has been stolen from me. I dwell on my anger and bitterness everyday and it’s unbearable. How can I cope?
272: Work evaluation, Abandonment/Rejection issues, Life after psych meds
In today’s show, the Dr’s discuss: 1. I listened to Dr Howk on pseudo esteem where you say: If you are highly agreeable, highly conscientious and not that emotionally stable – being on social media comes with a high price for you psycolgy. I teach workshops for companies and I get graded every time from each students. I get 5 from 95% of the students but sometimes I get a 2 or 3 and I can tell right away before I get the evaluation who in the crowd will grade me low. How do I stop trying to please the one disagreeable person and not feel bad for getting a low grade? When I have a disagreeable person in my workshop I feel like I have to work twice as hard to turn him or her over to my side. It feels like Im spending 1000 dollars on a 100 dollar asignment and Im drained. My boss allways sees the evaluation and I feel the need to explain my self if a person gave me a low grade. My boss uses the good evaluations as a selling point to get the companies to buy more workshops at his school. 2. Do you ever talk about abandonment/rejection issues? Examples: my mother divorced my father when I was seven years of age in 1959 and my mother was murdered in 1968 leaving behind 7 children. 3. I was put on psychiatric drugs when I was 13 because of anorexia and being miserable about being bullied at school. The drugs messed me up. I can see it now that I have not used them for years. I was on various types of drugs around 10 years. I now know how damaging and useless those drugs are and I know my cognitive abilities have been damaged because of them. I also now realize just how much damage psychiatry has caused to my life overall. I’m extremely angry and bitter. I’ts incredibly painful to think about what has been done to my brain and what potential has been stolen from me. I dwell on my anger and bitterness everyday and it’s unbearable. How can I cope?