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We go over the following questions: 1.  What is impostor syndrome? Can you change the perception of feeling like a fraud?  2. A dad’s son climbs on a roof to look at his neighbor’s nude sunbathing. Dad handles it, but mom is furious and thinks this is huge issue warranting psychiatric medications.   3.  A listener’s boyfriend ended up at a stripclub with coworkers.  He denies he got a lapdance even though everyone else got one.  Listener wants to know if she is the one insecure and if a more confident woman wouldn’t mind this happening.  And also if this is ‘normal behavior’ for men and so she should expect it from any future partners.  4. Does having more wealth increase the trait of openness? 5. What does the future hold for humans capable or not capable of thriving in the modern environment in the face of so many traps? 

The questions for tonight’s show are as follows: 1. I was wondering how Dr Lisle reconciled two seemingly opposing thoughts I’ve heard on separate episodes. 1. CBT is an effective therapy to mitigate cognitive distortions and 2. The human brain/nervous system does an immaculate job of evaluating its effectiveness and status within a group. If our brains do such an amazing job of evaluating feedback from the group, why are cognitive distortions so common? 2.I’ve often felt anger when someone seems to misunderstand something, perhaps honestly and perhaps disingenuously in something that is approaching an argument. The feeling often keeps me from explaining exactly what I mean because I expect that the exact points of the disagreement are disingenuous so it won’t matter and I will only regret justifying myself and “opening up”. You’ve often mentioned that that communication in relationships isn’t faulty the way most psychologist say, but you’ve also talked about getting crystal clear. So should I beat my genes and get crystal clear, or is the inference that it won’t change a thing correct?    

We welcome to the podcast our newest guest, Dr. Jen Howk. We’ll find out about who she is, how she got interested in Evolutionary Psychology, the work she has done, and her thoughts on a few select topics.