relationships

In this reply of episode 195, Dr. Lisle & Dr. Howk discuss:

On today’s show, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk will answer the following questions:

1. Imagine a 20-year-old male.  Every day, he plays video games, eats Twinkies, drinks Mountain Dew, binge watches Netflix, mindlessly scrolls through Social Media, and watches .  What are the long-term and short-term effects of all this supernormal stimuli?

2.I feel like I’m stuck in a diet mindset where my internal audience won’t recognize any of my efforts unless I’m 100% compliant all of the time.   Considering all the crap other people eat, I feel like I should be able to have one meal a week that’s not 100% wfpb and still be fine and not feel all this guilt?

3. I understand your view on how to handle questions about “why do eat that way” etc however i am wondering about what to say when people say things like “Oh i really need to do something about my weight so i have just started eating low carb high fat”. Or ” i have diabetes so i can’t eat pasta or potatoes.” Lately my respone has been to smile and say nothing however i am left feeling frustrated that there is so much that i could contribute to the conversation but i just hold back. What is the best approach when people say or do things that either simple wrong or not the best solution, particularily when you care about the person and want to be helpful? 

4. I am impressed with the data behind a whole foods plant based diet but felt this wasn’t something I could stick with long term. I’ve read in the pleasure trap strategies for telling others to buzz off, but still didn’t like the social implications of being a young male vegan. Long term concerns for being on this diet? Would you recommend it for anyone?

1.My husband and I are in our late 20s, no children, married less than 3 years. 6 months after our wedding, I became whole food plant based and an ethical vegan. I was already pretty healthy prior, but still lost 10 pounds and reversed some health conditions. My husband has a lot of health issues. He hasn’t physically changed much since our wedding and has always had these health problems, but I looked past them because I love everything else about my husband. He’s seen all the vegan documentaries and completely believes the science, but has no interest in eating healthier, being more active, or stop eating fast food daily. I love my husband and he supports my lifestyle, but I no longer find him attractive. I believe it’s because I know that if he drastically changed his diet, he could reverse many of his health problems that turn me off. I know it’s natural for couples to lose attraction towards each other over time, but what do you do when you’re repulsed by your spouse?

2.I’m a single mother of a girl that is intelligent and highly emotional. Much like her biological father I see genetic resemblance of undersirable traits. I’ve recently been dating a man which I feel a strong connection with. He is a single father and has a very emotionally stable, agreeable 15 year old daughter. My new partner seems blown away by my daughters highs and lows and I feel blamed for her behavior on my lack of my discipline. I feel like her behavior has to do with her genetics but is that a cop out for possibly a lack of discipline? How do I explain to this mid to low openness mate I’ve found that knows nothing of EP that she is who she is and we are along for the ride if he can bare it.

3.Do the 5 traits have to do more with how we feel or how we act?  So if someone often thinks that people are no good bastards and hates most of them but acts nicely most of the time, that makes them high A person?